3 Significant Ways To Start The New Year Fresh
It might be hard to believe, but 2019 is just a few weeks away, which means the opportunity to start the New Year fresh is probably on your mind. Common New Year’s resolutions usually have to do with fad diets, all of a sudden hitting the gym several days a weeks or spending less and saving more. While all great adjustments to make, let’s be honest how long have you ever kept one of these resolutions going? Two weeks? Two months? According to U.S. News & World Report, 80% of New Year’s Resolutions actually fail by February.
Instead of making a resolution that’s way too easy to break, leaving you disappointed and feeling the guilt of failure why not instead start the new year fresh by committing to change three things in your life that won’t have you struggling to keep up.
Here are three significant ways you can give 2019 a fresh start.
Clean out your closet.
The benefits of starting the new year with a decluttered wardrobe are plentiful.
You might be hoarding unnecessary negativity in your closet, and it’s the perfect time to let all of that go. Pull out every single piece of clothing you own and take a real look at how it makes you feel.
Do you have pieces that remind you of a sad or difficult time in your life? If so, those pieces have got to go! Pulling a dress from your closet that reminds of you a time when things in your life weren’t going so well is depressing. You want to be sure that every option of clothing you own brings positive vibes only.
Saving your favorite jeans from five years ago? The ones that are way too small right now but would fit if you could just lose those last ten pounds? Keep it real with yourself here! Women’s bodies change. Sometimes, it doesn’t have anything to do with weight, our actual body shape changes as we age. So ten pounds or not, those jeans from five years ago are probably never going to fit the same way again. Every time you try them on you’ll find yourself disappointed. Who needs that? Stop punishing yourself! Get rid of them!
Last but certainly not least, one woman’s trash is another woman’s treasure. Sell your good stuff to local second-hand shops or online sites like TheRealReal and make a few unexpected bucks. Then take everything else and donate it to a local church, homeless shelter or nonprofit organization like Dress for Success. Giving back is always a great way to bring more positivity to your life.
I can’t stress enough how important it is to schedule in some alone time. Just like everything else in your life, the only way you’re going to achieve some regular time for self is to schedule it in. Although we’re getting better, as women we tend to put everyone else’s needs before our own. The problem with leaving yourself for last on the to-do list is that the likelihood of getting it done diminishes.
Self-care looks different for everyone. For some of us, that might mean pampering ourselves with long hot showers, a body scrub, hair mask and face rolling. For some, it might mean an hour of yoga, your weekly manicure, a boozy brunch with the girls or a cooking class. There is no wrong way to spend your me-time, this is about whatever you need to make you feel better mentally, emotionally and physically.
Start the new year by dedicating one specific day a week where you can find two hours to do you and schedule it in early enough in the day so that you can get it done. I love “self-care Sundays” because you get your me-time in at the top of the day and top of the week. Setting you up for success for the days to come!
P.S. On a daily level try to find 30 minutes at any point of your day to take some for you too!
Let go of toxic friendships.
There’s much more work that needs to be done to maintain friendships when you’re an adult. Adult friendships take effort, time and energy. Both parties need to be committed to bringing all three to the table regularly. The new year is the perfect time to re-evaluate your friendships. Although it can be tough, it’s absolutely okay and healthy to let go of toxic people in your life.
Friends that are competitive, love to keep score, play tit for tat and are not sympathetic to your feelings, needs or woes are people you need to bid au revoir. Any “friend” who does not celebrate your success or cheerlead your cause is self-absorbed, send them on their way.
Beware of any “friend” who purposely makes others feel lesser than and gossips about other people then runs to hug, kiss and smile in their face, that’s what you call a secret mean girl. It’s only a matter of time till she’s behaving that exact way behind your back too.
Sometimes it’s hard to identify a toxic friendship. Without taking serious stock, you might not even notice that you’re in a one. Or maybe you’ve only just seen a friend’s true colors, but now find yourself spending a ton of time wondering how you manage the relationship. Removing yourself from friendships that aren’t one hundred percent full of love and support not only cleans up the energy around you but also gives you more time to invest in more meaningful friendships.
Not exactly resolutions but these three acts will without a doubt start your 2019 off to a fresh start.