Nurture - February 9, 2020

Why You Shouldn’t Celebrate Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is well-known as a day devoted to love and romance… But a lesser-known holiday known as Red Tuesday, which falls on the very same week, marks a day when many couples split. 

The reason behind this phenomenon varies depending on your source, but for the most part, many couples feel the pressure of planning the perfect date, buying the perfect gift, or committing to someone before they’re ready. All of the stress that goes into celebrating one of the most cherished relationships in your life, is exactly why you shouldn’t celebrate Valentine’s Day on February 14. 

Of course, all couples should make time to honor and celebrate their relationships, but doing so on Valentine’s Day can be more of a headache than it’s worth. Here’s why.

Expectations will be higher than ever.

If all of the holidays were ranked, Valentine’s Day could safely be considered one of the most high-stakes of them all. Why? Because the expectation that everything goes perfectly is higher than ever, for most people. Planning the day can come with its own level of stress, and hoping that everything goes right once the February 14 arrives can be even more nerve-wracking for some people. One way to lower expectations is to forgo the festivities altogether. If you still want to celebrate on the day of, it’s best to assess what you need and communicate it directly to your partner to offer them a chance to meet, or decline, that demand.

A simple inconvenience can feel like a major disaster.

The higher the expectations, the harder they fall? That may not be the exact saying, but when a couple hits even the most minor and innocuous snag on a day devoted to loving your partner, it can be hard not to feel disappointed. For some couples, one partner may even find themselves projecting undue meaning onto something out of their control that just didn’t go right, like an unexpected wait at a restaurant, or a sudden unavailability of cabs thanks to everyone else being out that night. If you’re feeling nervous or stressed about Valentine’s Day, or, honestly, if your relationship is currently not built on the strongest foundation right now, don’t set you and your partner up to fail! Nurture your bond, opt for a low-key night in, and save the spectacular proclamations of love for a different time.

It’ll cost you.

According to a 2019 report by Bank Rate, the average person spent $617 on an all-out Valentine’s Day ordeal last year, which included dinner at a fine-dining restaurant, champagne, flowers, and, of course, chocolate. Even if you don’t opt to go above and beyond for Valentine’s Day, going out to dinner on that specific night of the year usually costs more than the average meal any other day because many restaurants create specially curated meal specials and all-inclusive dinner packages, like V-day-themed appetizers, dinners, and desserts for two. Still want to enjoy a nice meal without breaking the bank? Making a meal together at home can be a great way to connect, as is ordering take out or even hitting up a casual diner. Safe the special plans for a different night.

You might get less-than-ideal service.

In addition to paying more, you might find yourself on the receiving end of a not-so-exceptional dining experience. CNBC states that even when Valentine’s Day falls on a weeknight, restaurants are packed up to 300% higher than they would be on an average night. This means the dining area will likely be loud, servers will have more tables to tend to, and the kitchen will be scrambling to feed all those extra mouths, each of whom expects the perfect night out. If you really want to splurge on a nice meal with your significant other, consider pushing the date back to another night of the week, when things are less hectic for everyone. 

The spirit of Valentine’s Day is sweet and well-meaning, but the fanfare that’s come along with it can add unneeded stress to even the strongest of relationships. This holiday can be celebrated in any number of ways, and often, the smallest gestures go the longest way. 

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